I would love to spend all of my time working with people who…
- Want to change something about themselves or their lives. Typically, that will be your own thoughts, beliefs, emotions or behavior. It’s OK if you don’t know exactly what you want to change. That can be part of the counseling process. But if you don’t actually want to change anything, what is the point?
- Value their own mental health. Want to change, and are sufficiently motivated to set aside the time and energy to actually do something about it!
- Understand that change is hard. I like to work with people who are willing to do the work to achieve their own goals. Who don’t expect me to “fix” them or their kids. Who are willing to think about counseling between sessions, and do the things I have suggested.
- Respect my time as much as their own. For starters, that means showing up for appointments. I want people to understand that an appointment is a promise. Each of us is making a commitment to the other. If you aren’t going to be able to make it, give me the courtesy of as much notice as possible. I will do the same for you.
- Ask questions and do their own research. I love working wtih people who are actively engaged in the change process. Who come in with specific questions. Who participate in discussions.
- Are willing to be honest with me. Especially about their thoughts and feelings. I can’t do much to help you if I don’t know what’s going on in your head!
- Are willing to disagree with me. I like to work with people who understand that I do not have all of the answers. Who challenge my thinking as much as I challenge theirs.